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- Author: Frank Martela
- Full Title:: How to Get Your Mojo Back
- Category:: 🗞️Articles
- URL:: https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-get-your-mojo-back?utm_source=rss-feed
- Finished date:: 2023-08-16
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Are you unable to find motivation to do the activities that used to give you joy? (View Highlight)
(The bad news about languishing is that the lack of enthusiasm often translates into less effort (View Highlight)
Languishing is also a risk factor for mental illness – long periods of languishing more than double the risk of developing major depression or anxiety disorders in the future (View Highlight)
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our brains are wired to connect issues into meaningful patterns. Even meaning in life comes from connection – that’s what my enquiries into the topic of meaning have taught me over the past decade (View Highlight)
the strategies to overcome languishing can be (View Highlight)
four different types of connection, each helping to elevate your mood: to overcome languishing, you can try connecting with the situation, connecting with others, connecting with yourself, or connecting with a desired future (View Highlight)
Multitasking through your life without concentrating on whatever is happening right now dulls your feelings and is thus a recipe for languishing. (View Highlight)
Aside from putting your smartphone away more of the time, another simple cure to languishing is to build more rhythm and dynamic into your days. When you rest – rest. When you work – work. When you play with your kids, be present in that moment (View Highlight)
When we feel down, we easily become more focused on ourselves. Paradoxically, one of the best ways to increase your own happiness is to make someone else happy (View Highlight)
Make contact with a loved one – or a stranger (View Highlight)
write down all the activities you actually enjoy doing (View Highlight)
The next step is to figure out what you could change to be able to do more of the activities that you actually love doing and that could bring more joy to your life. (View Highlight)
Challenge yourself to do something you’ve never done before (View Highlight)
Connect with the future you desire (View Highlight)
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Nothing fills your life with meaning better than having some larger goal you are committed to (View Highlight)
What is the legacy you want to leave behind you? What do you want your grandchildren to remember about you? What kind of positive change do you want your career to contribute towards? (View Highlight)
(You might not find such a purpose for your life in one sitting. It can take years to crystallise (View Highlight)
When you are stuck, grand long-term goals can feel too remote to be motivating. If that’s your experience, start with small wins instead (View Highlight)
If altering your whole lifestyle feels overwhelming, start with committing to exercise 10 minutes every other day (View Highlight)
We humans are social animals. Rather than being individuals, we are relaviduals and interbeings in the sense that who we are and what we are able to do are, to a large degree, determined by our social relationships (View Highlight)
Mark Vonnegut (paraphrasing Jiddu Krishnamurti) puts it in The Eden Express: A Memoir of Insanity (1975): (View Highlight)
It’s no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.’ (View Highlight)
There are many situations and contexts where languishing is the perfectly natural reaction. In those cases, you have to choose your battle: can you do something to make your work environment better? Or do you have the opportunity to vote with your feet and seek out employment elsewhere, from a more healthy organisation? The same goes for other social surroundings, from intimate relationships to friend groups to sports teams (View Highlight)